
Could the solution rest with you? (Picture: Getty)
It was one sunny Friday afternoon when I found myself in a police station,staring at two officers.
I’d volunteered to be there — as had the 13 other men and women who sat with me,to take part in Active Bystander Training.
The idea is simple: teach members of the public how to safely intervene in volatile or dangerous situations,because the police can’t always be there.
After being spat on by two men on two separate occasions — and no one stepping in to help — I’d asked the police what they were doing to combat violence against women. This two hour session,offered throughout the year,was their solution.
The training was first introduced in Bradford,and has just recently been implemented in Surrey. Since March 2024,it’s been delivered to 1,103 people.
The term ‘bystanderism’ has become more well known in recent years,particularly after the horrific 2023 case of a 20-year-old woman who was raped on the Tube. It describes the phenomenon of witnessing a crime,and not intervening.
And while it’s easy to question how you could standby while someone is in danger,it’s hard to know how to act without escalating the situation,or putting yourself in harm’s way too.
Several content creators have taken to social media,to share harrowing incidences of being attacked,while others watched on.
Scarlett Owens,24,shared how she was assaulted on the tube by a man who began shouting at her and kicked her in the leg in June last year. Her TikTok,which shows her crying after the fact,hit 6.7 million views. She later said: ‘No one came to see if I was okay. I made eye contact with a guy opposite me,and he just shrugged.’
It was a video like this that landed on chief inspector Nick Haigh’s desk,and inspired him to take action.
In Bradford,there’s already a public space protection order against making sexualised comments or gestures. If breached,it can result in a £1000 fine,but Nick felt ‘enforcement alone wouldn’t resolve [the problem]’.

Each person sits at a table and has a hypothetical situation in which an active bystander would be useful printed on paper,as well as information about the Ask for Angela campaign (Picture: supplied)
The active bystander training was initially offered at run clubs,as part of the JogOn initiative,but has since been expanded to to anyone who wants to learn how to make our streets safer.
It’s needed now more than ever,given that ore than 70% of women admitted to experiencing sexual harassment in public,and more than 300,000 women have been spat on by men while running.
What had I expected from this training? A mix of roleplay exercises,or some good old fashioned self-defence. But instead,I felt like I was back at school.
I sat down with my cup of squash amongst a crowd of teachers and parent types waiting for the session to start,and noticed one young man alone. He was 18,about 20 years younger than the rest of the attendees,and had come voluntarily after recently finishing college.
Officers Becky (left) and Dan (right) who lead the active bystander training and chief inspector Nick Haigh who implemented this training (middle) (Picture: supplied)So,we settled in,ready to learn how to make a difference. ‘We’re not expecting anybody to leave here and go and be superheroes,wear a cape and get involved in everything you can,’ said officer Becky.‘We’ve got to think of ourselves first,but there are a lot of vulnerable people who need our support.’The session is two hours in total and covers your responsibility as a bystander,how to challenge negative behaviour and the Ask For Angela initiative. Each topic has an open floor for discussion and questions.Yes,we watched videos on the social science of the bystander effect (which theorises that the more people present when an incident occurs,the less likely it is anyone will step in to help),and discussed reasons someone might not get involved.Everyone has a responsibility to help people in need,and the training discussed interventions as standing between two people who need to cool off,without even saying a word.I’ll say upfront that you aren’t going to learn anything too groundbreaking here,but the message itself is actually pretty inspiring.The aim is to get people to burst that protective bubble we all form around ourselves in public. To stop avoiding eye contact,be aware,and shift your perspective.
We were put into teams to complete a questionnaire about a scenario regarding a vulnerable woman on a night out – this is one of the team’s answers (Picture: supplied)
When I was assaulted in public,no one helped me – that’s why I did active bystander training (Picture: supplied)United News - unews.co.za